Slow down and get curious about what you actually want sexually—not just what you think you should want
Stay present in your body as you move toward intimacy instead of bracing, shutting down, or pushing
Stop defensive patterns and start having honest conversations about desire
Handle the inevitable no's without making them mean rejection or failure
Work as partners on the problem instead of making each other the problem
Your Relationship Works in Every Other Way. But When It Comes to Sex, You're Both Stuck.
You can talk about everything else. You're good partners, good parents, good friends. But around sex? One of you is always asking, one of you is always avoiding. Both of you are exhausted.
This intensive teaches you the skills to shift those patterns. By the end of the two days, you'll be able to:
What Should I Expect from the Sex & Intimacy Intensive?
The Sex & Relationship Intensive takes place online for two full days, February 21-22, 2026, 9am-4pm each day.
You'll work in a small group setting (limited to 5 couples) with real-time coaching on your specific patterns. The format includes teaching, guided exercises, small group work, and time to practice new skills with your partner.
What's included: All materials and resources, follow-up integration guide, and ongoing email support for 30 days after the intensive.
By the end of the two days, you'll understand what's been keeping you stuck and have concrete skills to shift it.
Most approaches to mismatched desire focus on communication or scheduling or trying harder. This work goes deeper.
I integrate three core frameworks:
Somatic Experiencing - Sexual struggles live in your nervous system. We work with what's happening in your body—the shutdown, the urgency, the freeze—to help your nervous system know that intimacy can feel safe.
Relational Life Therapy - Your sexual dynamic is a system. One person pursues, the other withdraws. We work with the pattern keeping you stuck, not just individual "problems."
Trauma-Informed Sexology - Many people carry wounds around sex. I help you understand how protective strategies that once made sense now keep you disconnected. We work at the pace your body can handle.
This means:
HOW THIS WORK IS DIFFERENT
A Somatic, Relational Sexological Approach to Your Relationship
- We don't pathologize anyone's experience
- We work with your body's protective responses, not against them
- We address beliefs about sex that create stuck patterns
- We help both partners see their role in the dynamic
- We build skills for navigating this differently
Who should join?
The Sex & Relationship Intensive is suitable for:
Couples struggling with mismatched desire who want to reconnect sexually and emotionally
IIndividuals looking to understand their patterns and cultivate more fulfilling intimate relationships
Mental health professionals looking to deepen their understanding of somatic approaches to sex and intimacy
Why this Matters
Look - your relationship is good. You've built a life together.
You're good partners, good parents, good friends. This sexual struggle doesn't erase all of that. This isn't about chemistry or attraction. It's about doing the work to find your way toward intimacy that actually works for you for the long haul.
I'm not here to say your relationship has to last. But if you want to give it a real shot - do the work. Don't give up, don't blame each other, and don't keep hiding from the conversation.
If you're willing to show up, I can show you the way through.
Meet Your Facilitator
Lori Davis DNP, CSC
Dr. Lori Davis is a sexologist and relational specialist who focuses on helping individuals and couples who feel stuck in their sex lives to create authentic, resilient, and passionate relationships for the long haul. She takes a deeply mind-body approach to the challenges of modern relationships and believes that we can all find our way to deeper intimacy and connection.
Ithaca, NY
The intensive creates the breakthrough. Ongoing coaching sustains it.Most couples continue working with me after the intensive to integrate what they learned and navigate challenges as they come up.
We typically meet weekly or bi-weekly for 3-6 months to help the new patterns take root.You don't have to decide now - we can talk about what makes sense after the intensive. But know that ongoing support is available when you're ready.
Keep the Momentum Going
The intensive creates the breakthrough. Ongoing coaching sustains it.
Individual
Shift your own role in the pattern. Understand your nervous system. Create change from the inside out.
Couple
Transform your relationship together. Learn the skills, understand the pattern, build real momentum for change.
Pricing
Let's get down to brass tacks!
$1250 per person
$2500 per two-some
Come Together!
Invest in yourself
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- We'll talk about where you are, what you need, and whether this intensive is right for you
- If it's a fit, I'll send registration details to reserve your spot
No pressure, no sales pitch - just a real conversation about what's possible.
Most consultations are scheduled within 1-2 business days.
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If you have the will, I have the way.
April 18-19, 2026.
Space is limited to 5 couples.
You're here because you're not ready to give up. Because you know your relationship is worth fighting for. Because somewhere underneath all the hurt and frustration, you still want each other.
That matters. That's what makes change possible.
You have questions. I have answers.
A relationship intensive is an extended, focused period of work — typically done over one or more consecutive days — rather than spreading the work across weeks or months of weekly sessions. This format allows us to go deeper, move faster, and create real momentum for couples who are highly motivated to change. We use this time to understand the patterns that have kept you stuck, work through what's underneath the conflict or disconnection, and build a new foundation for how you relate to each other.
Frequently Asked Questions
Intensives work well for couples who are at a turning point — feeling stuck after years of the same fights, navigating a crisis like infidelity or a major rupture, preparing for a big life transition, or simply wanting to do focused work without waiting months to see progress. They're also a good fit for couples who have geographic constraints, busy schedules, or who've tried traditional weekly therapy and want something more immersive. If you're not sure whether an intensive is right for your situation, the free consultation is a good place to start.
Intensives are scheduled to take place online. Intensives can be scheduled in person in Ithaca, NY by request.
Regular couples counseling meets weekly or biweekly, which means real change often happens slowly — and significant time between sessions can allow old patterns to reassert themselves. An intensive compresses that timeline, allowing you to build insight and momentum in a way that shorter sessions rarely allow. It's not for everyone, but for the right couple, it can accomplish in days what might otherwise take months.
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