The Blog

Most of what you've been told about sex in long-term relationships is incomplete. Here's what I actually see in my practice. No fluff. Just honest, insights to help you get unstuck.

Clinical perspectives on sex, desire, and long-term relationships.

Intimacy & Relationships

Menopause Medicine

Sex Medicine & Counseling

Relational Desire: What Couples Who Get it Right Do Differently

A couple experiencing relatinonal desire

The Tyranny of the Sex Clock: How Counting the Days is Killing Your Sex Life

A couple under the tyranny of the sex clock

Mismatched Desire in Relationships: Explained

Dr. Lori Davis DNP FNP-C explaining mismatced desire

The Knot: Why Your Body Shuts Down When Sex Comes Up

Woman feeling shut down when sex comes up because of the know

Sex is Not a Love Language

Two people with mismatched desire discussing the five love languages

Responsive Listening Turns: A Path to Deeper Intimacy

couple with mismatched desire practicing responsive listening turns

Complex Responsive Desire: What the Model Leaves Out

Woman reflecting on complex responsive desire

Responsive Desire: Understanding How Desire Actually Works

Woman learning about responsive desire

“Withholding” Sex? The Story that is Keeping You Stuck

Frustrated man thinking is partner is withholding sex

Why Meeting in the Middle Is Not the Answer

A couple with mismatched desire playing tug of war trying to meet in the middle

The Feedback Wheel: How to Talk about Sex Better

Couple doing a feedback wheel

Use the “Time Out” and Never Fight About Sex Again. Period.

Person making a time out sign to stop a fight