You're Not Alone. And You're Not Broken.
Maybe you've lost your desire and don't know how to get it back. Maybe sex has become a source of tension instead of connection. Maybe you feel stuck between what you think you should want and what your body is actually telling you.
I work with individuals and couples who are navigating the messy, complicated reality of sex in long-term relationships—people dealing with mismatched desire, pain, shame, or the feeling that this part of their life is just... over.
Here's what I know: These struggles aren't character flaws. They're not proof that you're broken or that your relationship is doomed. They're usually the result of nervous system patterns, relationship dynamics, and physical factors that no one ever taught you how to address.
And that's exactly what I help you do..
Its not your fault.
I've been where you are.
For years, sex was confusing and difficult for me. I didn't understand why, and I thought I was the only one who felt that way. I knew there was a deeply sexual part of me, but I felt disconnected—unable to bring my authentic, erotic self into my relationships.
Like many people, I stumbled through self-help books and advice, piecing together what resonated and discarding what didn't. The most important lesson I learned early on? I wasn't broken, and I wasn't alone.
Along the way, I trained in mindfulness and had the great fortune of meeting a wise therapist who introduced me to the power of somatic healing, self-compassion, and emotional acceptance. With this therapist, I experienced what it felt like to reconnect with myself and feel safe in my own body. It changed my life. After my sessions, I often thought: I wish I could share this experience with everyone.
And I've learned my lessons.
Everything Changed When I Opened up and started Talking to other People Suffering in Silence.
As a nurse practitioner, I started meeting people—of all genders—who described the same struggles: low libido, wanting to want sex, experiencing pain, wondering why intimacy felt so hard in long-term relationships. Higher desire partners feeling rejected and confused. Lower desire partners feeling broken and pressured. Their stories mirrored my own.
And yet, the medical system barely acknowledged these struggles. Therapists were often sympathetic but couldn't offer much help either.
I knew this wasn't acceptable. Everyone deserved better support for their sex lives.
I realized I could bridge the gap—combining my medical expertise with the somatic and relational tools I'd learned in my own healing. That's when I made the decision to dedicate my career to bringing people the real support they deserve.
There has to be a better way.
What makes my approach different.
Here's the truth: Most clincians are either medical providers who don't understand the emotional and relational side, or therapists who can't address the physical factors. Very few practitioners bridge both worlds.
I'm one of those few.
Over the past decade, I've dedicated myself to mastering the full spectrum of what it takes to help people who feel stuck in their sex lives. I earned my Doctorate of Nursing Practice specializing in sexual medicine, became an AASECT Certified Sex Counselor, trained extensively in trauma and somatic work, and became a Certified Relational Life Therapy Coach.
What that means for you:
When you work with me, you're not just getting a counselor OR a medical provider. You're getting someone who can address:
I'm one of those few.
Over the past decade, I've dedicated myself to mastering the full spectrum of what it takes to help people who feel stuck in their sex lives. I earned my Doctorate of Nursing Practice specializing in sexual medicine, became an AASECT Certified Sex Counselor, trained extensively in trauma and somatic work, and became a Certified Relational Life Therapy Coach.
What that means for you:
When you work with me, you're not just getting a counselor OR a medical provider. You're getting someone who can address:
- Your body (hormones, pain, nervous system patterns, physical response)
- Your relationship (pursue-withdraw dynamics, communication breakdowns, mismatched desire)
- Your whole self (trauma, shame, the gap between who you think you should be and who you actually are)
Real Mind-Body Medicine
Sexual healing isn't usually just a matter of prescribing the right medication or learning better communication skills. It requires truly holistic mind-body-relationship support. That's what I offer.
My Approach: Slow Down, Tune In, Welcome All Parts of Yourself
The heart of my work is simple yet powerful: we slow down, tune in to what your body is actually telling you, and welcome all parts of yourself with compassion instead of judgment.Together, we'll:
The goal isn't to become someone else. It's to reconnect with your authentic erotic self and create the kind of intimacy that actually works for both of YOU.
- Get curious instead of critical about what's happening in your body and relationship
- Address the root causes (not just the symptoms) of what's keeping you stuck
- Work somatically so you can feel safe and present in your body again
- Navigate relationship patterns that keep you in pursuit-withdraw cycles
- Honor your reality instead of trying to force yourself into some idealized version of desire
The goal isn't to become someone else. It's to reconnect with your authentic erotic self and create the kind of intimacy that actually works for both of YOU.
Expertise and Credentials
I've spent over a decade collecting the tools to help you transform your sex life and relationships.
AASECT Certified Sex Counselor and Supervisor in Training
Certified Relational Life Therapy Coach
Certified Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach
Expert in trauma support as a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner
Doctorally Prepared Nurse Practitioner, Dual Board Certified in Family and Acute Care Nursing (DNP)
Menopause Society Certified Practitioner (MSCP)
Fellow in the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (IF)
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Clinical Expertise
Medical Credentials
The Take Home Message
Most importantly? I've worked with over 1,200 people just like you—people who feel shame, people dealing with pain, people who can't orgasm or can't sustain desire, people frustrated with mismatched libidos. I can't claim credit for how their lives transformed; they did the work. But I'm honored to have been a compassionate companion on their journey.
How We can work together
Sexual Medicine
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Holistic medical support for your best sex life.
Sex & Relationship Counseling
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One on one support to explore what is keeping you stuck.
Relationship Intensives
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Deep support for radical relationship transformation.
Recognition of Privilege
I am aware that I am white, cis-gendered heterosexual woman in a monogamous relationship doing this work. There are reasons beyond my beliefs and my accomplishments that have given me the opportunity to do my work that make it hard for someone outside of these dominant groups to do the same work. I acknowledge that, and I hope this reality continues to change.
I am committed to a continuous learning process around how to embody anti-racist and anti-oppressive practices. It is my mission to join with like-minded folks in eradicating oppression through self-education, acknowledgement, and activism.
Sexual health and pleasure is a right for ALL PEOPLE.
I am committed to serving people of all sexual orientations, with all gender identities, and all relationship styles...in every step of their journey.
