Sex Counseling & Intimacy Medicine from a Provider Who Gets It

For years, I struggled with my own intimacy and desire. Now, I help people who feel stuck, ashamed, or disconnected find their way back to pleasure, connection, and themselves.

hi, i'm Dr.lori!

You're Not Alone. And You're Not Broken.

Maybe you've lost your desire and don't know how to get it back. Maybe sex has become a source of tension instead of connection. Maybe you feel stuck between what you think you should want and what your body is actually telling you.

I work with individuals and couples who are navigating the messy, complicated reality of sex in long-term relationships—people dealing with mismatched desire, pain, shame, or the feeling that this part of their life is just... over.

Here's what I know: These struggles aren't character flaws. They're not proof that you're broken or that your relationship is doomed. They're usually the result of nervous system patterns, relationship dynamics, and physical factors that no one ever taught you how to address.

And that's exactly what I help you do..

It's not your fault.

Why You Should Trust Me With Your Sex Life

I'm Dr. Lori Davis—AASECT Certified Sex Counselor, Doctorally Prepared Nurse Practitioner (DNP), and Certified Relational Life Therapy Coach. II've worked with 600+ individuals and couples navigating mismatched desire, pain, shame, and the feeling that intimacy is just... over.

What makes my approach different:

Most clinicians are either medical providers who don't understand the emotional side, or therapists who can't address physical factors. Very few practitioners bridge both worlds.

I'm one of those few.
When you work with me, you get someone who can address:


because you need real support

Your body (hormones, pain, nervous system patterns, physical response)

Your relationship (pursue-withdraw dynamics, communication breakdowns, mismatched desire)

Your whole self (desire, longing, trauma, shame, the gap between who you think you should be and who you actually are)


To provide the best care possible, I offer two distinct ways to work together: The Sex Medicine Path (medical clinical care for NY/VT residents) and the Intimacy & Relationship Path (a global coaching and consultative process available worldwide).

How I got here

For years, sex was confusing and difficult for me. I felt disconnected—unable to bring my authentic, erotic self into my relationships. Like many people, I stumbled through self-help books, piecing together what resonated.
The turning point came when I trained in somatic healing and experienced what it felt like to reconnect with myself and feel safe in my own body. It changed my life. After my sessions, I thought: I wish I could share this experience with everyone.

As a nurse practitioner, I started meeting people—of all genders—who described the same struggles. Their stories mirrored my own. And yet, the medical system barely acknowledged these struggles. Therapists were often sympathetic but couldn't offer much help either.

I knew this wasn't acceptable. Everyone deserved better support for their sex lives.

That's when I dedicated my career to bringing people the real support they deserve—combining medical expertise with the somatic and relational tools I'd learned in my own healing.

Ready to work with me?

There has to be a better way.

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My Approach: Slow Down, Tune In, Welcome All Parts of Yourself

The heart of my work is simple yet powerful: we slow down, tune in to what your body is actually telling you, and welcome all parts of yourself with compassion instead of judgment.

Together, we'll:


Real Mind-Body Medicine

The goal isn't to become someone else.  It's to become curious about yourself and your partner, to learn about what keeps you stuck and repeating the same cycles, all while  exploring your authentic wants and needs.

Get curious instead of critical about what's happening in your body and relationship

Address root causes (not just symptoms) of what's keeping you stuck

Work somatically so you can feel safe and present in your body again

Navigate relationship patterns that keep you stuck

Honor your reality and help you advocate for your needs while remaining compassionate

My Credentials

I've spent over a decade collecting the tools to help you transform your sex life and relationships.

AASECT Certified Sex Counselor

Certified Relational Life Therapy Coach

Certified Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach

Expert in trauma support as a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner

Doctorally Prepared Nurse Practitioner, Board Certified in Family Nursing (DNP, FNP-C)

Menopause Society Certified Practitioner (MSCP)

Fellow in the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (IF)

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Medical and Clinical Training

TEACHING & EDUCATION

SEX, SOMATICS & RELATIONSHIP SPECIALIZATION

Course Instructor, Sexual Health Certificate Program, University of Michigan


Guest Instructor and Conference Presenter, Relational Life Therapy (RLT)

How We can work together

Sex & Menopause  Medicine Path

Clinical support for pain, hormones, and physical dysfunction. Available for NY & VT residents.

Intimacy & Relationship Path

A coaching-based deep dive into the emotional and relational patterns holding you back. Available worldwide.

I am a Doctor of Nursing Practice (DNP) and an AASECT Certified Sex Counselor. I’ve spent over a decade bridging the gap between medical science and relational intimacy. Because these struggles are often both physical and emotional, I offer two distinct ways to work together: The Sex Medicine Path (medical care for NY/VT residents) and the Intimacy & Relationship PATH (a coaching-based framework available to individuals and couples worldwide)."

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Recognition of Privilege

I am aware that I am white, cis-gendered heterosexual woman in a monogamous relationship doing this work. There are reasons beyond my beliefs and my accomplishments that have given me the opportunity to do my work that make it hard for someone outside of these dominant groups to do the same work. I acknowledge that, and I hope this reality continues to change.

I am committed to a continuous learning process around how to embody anti-racist and anti-oppressive practices. It is my mission to join with like-minded folks in eradicating oppression through self-education, acknowledgement, and activism.



Sexual health and pleasure is a right for ALL PEOPLE. 

I am committed to serving people of all sexual orientations, with all gender identities, and all relationship styles...in every step of their journey. 


Frequently Asked Questions

You have questions. I have answers.

Who do you work with?

I work with individuals and couples at all relationship stages and structures — married, dating, long-term partnerships, polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships, and clients of all sexual orientations and gender identities. My clients are dealing with mismatched desire, sexual disconnection, intimacy struggles, pain, shame, trauma, and the ways menopause and life transitions affect sexuality and relationships. If you're wondering whether your situation fits, the free consultation is a good place to ask.

What makes your approach different?

I specialize in mismatched desire and bring deep expertise in both the medical and relational dimensions of sexuality. That means I can address the physical, the emotional, the relational, and the nervous system — the full picture of what's affecting your sexuality and connection. I also work somatically, which means we're addressing what's happening in your body, not just your thoughts or communication patterns. I've developed original clinical frameworks for working with mismatched desire based on years of specialization in this area.

While my doctoral medical training informs everything I do, please note that medical services (prescribing/diagnosing) are strictly limited to the Sex Medicine path for patients in NY and VT. My Intimacy & Relationships clients work with me in a coaching and consultative capacity.

What are your credentials and training?

I'm a Doctor of Nursing Practice (DNP) and board-certified Family Nurse Practitioner, which means I have advanced clinical training at the doctoral level and can diagnose, treat, order labs, and prescribe medications. This medical foundation allows me to address the physical dimensions of sexual health that many therapists and counselors aren't trained to recognize or treat.

I'm also AASECT-certified — the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists — which is one of the most rigorous credentials in the field of sexuality. AASECT certification requires specialized training, extensive supervised clinical experience, and ongoing education. It's the gold standard for professionals working with sexual concerns.

Beyond that, I'm certified in Somatic Experiencing, which focuses on how the body holds trauma and stress and how to work with the nervous system to create lasting change. I'm trained in Relational Life Therapy, a model developed by Terry Real that addresses power dynamics and intimacy in relationships. And I'm trained in Inner Relationship Focusing, a body-based approach to working with the different parts of ourselves that hold emotion, memory, and meaning.

I've worked with more hundreds of clients over the course of my career, and I currently teach sexuality counseling at the University of Michigan.

Have you been featured in the media?

Yes. I've been quoted and featured in The New York Times, Women's Health, AARP, and other national outlets on topics related to desire, sexual health, and relationship dynamics.