The Radical Sexologist

Whether you get naturally wet or not, whether you’re having penetrative sex or just external play, whether you’re solo or partnered—lubricant makes everything better.

Here’s what most couples therapy won’t tell you: Sometimes the problem isn’t your communication. It’s that your nervous systems never get a chance to settle down together.

Most people don’t even know what their pelvic floor is, let alone that it could be causing pain during sex, burning when they pee, or difficulty having an orgasm.

When It Helps, When It Doesn’t, and What You Should Know