The Blog

Most of what you've been told about sex in long-term relationships is incomplete. Here's what I actually see in my practice. No fluff. Just honest, insights to help you get unstuck.

Clinical perspectives on sex, desire, and long-term relationships.

Sex Medicine

Mismatched Desire

Relationship & Intimacy Skills

Somatics

Why Meeting in the Middle Is Not the Answer

A couple with mismatched desire playing tug of war trying to meet in the middle

The Feedback Wheel: How to Talk about Sex Better

Couple doing a feedback wheel

Use the “Time Out” and Never Fight About Sex Again. Period.

Person making a time out sign to stop a fight

Five Winning Strategies That Will Transform Your Sex Life

Happy couple practicing the winning strategies

Five Losing Strategies That Are Hurting Your Sex Life

Couple engaged in RLT losing strategies

The Real Reason PE Doesn’t Get Better

A couple working on premature ejaculation together

Feeling Sexually Rejected? Of Course It Hurts. Now What?

Higher desire partner sad about feeling rejected in his mismatched desire relationship.

Morning Sex or Sex at Bedtime? It’s Not Just a Timing Preference

A couple negotiating the right time of day to have sex

The Mismatched Desire Dance That is Killing Your Sex Life

Couple doing The Dance of Mismatched Desire

The Sex Clock: Are You Having Sex or Just Keeping Time?

Woman with low desire in a mismatched desire relationship monitoring the Sex Clock

Responsive Desire: Why You Don’t Want Sex Anymore

A woman wondering, "Why don't I want sex anymore?"

Mismatched Desire in Relationships: Explained

Dr. Lori Davis DNP FNP-C explaining mismatced desire